As I noted last week, this summer I am on a mission to bring the transformative power of Radical Forgiveness to my native land of England. I will be keeping a video log of my travels, and I hope you will join me by visiting my YouTube channel. My blog posts will also focus on the Radical Forgiveness strategy, to give fuller meaning to my quest. [That’s not say I won’t respond to events as they occur from time to time and give my ‘radical forgiveness,’ perspective on them where I can.]
Of all the Radical Living Strategies, Radical Forgiveness is the one that is foundational to all. And it is the basis for what has become known as The Tipping Method.
In the chapter I contributed to the collaborative book, 27 Flavors of Fulfillment, How to Live Live to the Fullest, edited by Nathan Crane, I gave the definition of Radical Forgiveness as follows:
“To be open to Radical Forgiveness is to have the intellectual courage and willingness to entertain the possibility that God makes no mistakes; that events happen not TO us but FOR us; and that everything occurs has meaning and purpose in terms of our self-created divine plan and our desire to evolve as spiritual beings.”
A more succinct way of putting it, which is beautifully paradoxical: “Radical Forgiveness is forgiveness that recognizes the perfection in the imperfection.”
Radical Forgiveness is also the antidote to victim consciousness. Compare the definition of RF above to the definition of victim consciousness, as written in my book Radical Forgiveness, and the contrast becomes clear: “The conviction that someone has done something bad to me, and, as a direct result he/she or they are responsible for the lack of peace and unhappiness in my life.”
Make no mistake, victim consciousness is a billion dollar industry. Lawyers make a fortune encouraging it. Opportunists make millions bringing law suits about having been actually or allegedly (makes no difference to the lawyers), victimized in some way. TV shows such as 20/20 get excellent ratings with its stories of perpetrators and victims. Society feeds our insatiable appetite and pervasive addiction to it. As I write in the Introduction of my book, Radical Forgiveness:
Who among us could say they have never blamed someone else for their lack of happiness? For most of us, that is simply a way of life.
Indeed, the victim archetype is deeply engrained in all of us, and it exerts great power in the mass consciousness. For eons we have been playing out victimhood in every aspect of our lives, convincing ourselves that victim consciousness is absolutely fundamental to the human condition.
The time has come to ask ourselves the question — how can we stop creating our lives this way and let go of the victim archetype as the model of how to live our lives?
To break free from such a powerful archetype, we must replace it with something radically different — something so compelling and spiritually liberating that it magnetizes us away from the victim archetype and the world of illusion. We need something that will take us beyond the drama of our lives so we can see the big picture and the truth that, right now, lies hidden from us. When we awaken to that truth, we will understand the true meaning of our suffering and be able to transform it immediately.
Jesus gave a powerful demonstration of what transforming the victim archetype means and I believe he now waits patiently and lovingly for us to follow his lead. Up to now at least, we have failed to learn from his example precisely because the victim archetype has had such a strong hold in our psyche. In order to feed our addiction, we have made him the ultimate victim. This will not move us forward in our spiritual evolution. True forgiveness must include letting go completely of victim consciousness.
And that’s Radical Forgiveness.