Nothing makes you feel like a perfect victim more than when you get punished by “The Authorities” for doing precisely what you thought was the right thing to do, even though you didn’t have to. JoAnn and I have to do some heavy-duty Radical Forgiveness on the British Government right now because they have made an arbitrary decision not to allow her entry into the UK with me this year. Can you believe that?
I’m mad as hell about it and have to admit that I am ashamed of my own country for what they (or some moron in the British Consulate in New York) have done to JoAnn for absolutely stupid reasons.
(As you can tell, I am still in the ‘telling the story’ and ‘feeling the feelings’ stage of the Radical Forgiveness process.)
The ‘story’ is that in July last year, we were returning to the UK from a trip to Switzerland and the immigration official noticed that her return date to the U.S. was close to the allowed limit of 6 months for a visitor. He suggested she might, for future flexibility, apply for a visa when she got home to the U.S. that would give her three extra months on future visits.
So she went ahead and spent hours filling in forms online, going to Atlanta to have the biometrics done and paying 460 pounds to make the application and sent it off. Back comes a stupid letter saying ENTRY REFUSED. That means she can’t now even come as a visitor, even though she is married to me – a British citizen. And I am now having to pay at least $2,000 for a lawyer in the UK to intercede on her behalf, but even then with no certainty of success since it said in the letter – decision final, no appeal allowed.
So our whole trip to Europe this year is now plunged into uncertainty. I have commitments from May right up to the end of November, so I have to go, no matter what. This means JoAnn and I may be living in two different parts of the world for all that time, which really sucks.
This coming Thursday, I am taking part in a preview event for the “Nourished Soul Symposium” which is happening the weekend of April 12th – 14th. (BTW I still have some coupons for $100 off if you wish to attend as a guest of mine – Click here for more details.)
I am one of several speakers who will be on a panel talking about Spirituality in the Workplace, which is the main theme of the actual symposium. For us, it couldn’t be more timely, since this story is a ‘workplace’ situation that cries out for Radical Forgiveness to be used.
By that time, I will have completed stages one and two of Radical Forgiveness and, hopefully, will be in a frame of mind to contemplate a reframe. I will share this story with the audience and speak of how we are ready to be open to the idea that either JoAnn or I, or both, created this situation for a reason and are ready to accept whatever needs to be for our highest and best. I will probably use this opportunity to show how the Emerge-n-See 4-Step Radical Forgiveness process can be used to good effect in the workplace — or, as in our case — with organizations like the British Consulate. If you don’t know the steps, they are:
- Look what I (We) created!
- I (We) notice my judgments but love myself anyway
- I (We) am ready to see the perfection in the situation
- I (We) choose peace
If you live in the Atlanta area and would like to come to the preview on Thursday (see details below), for your own benefit and to support JoAnn in getting this resolved in the right and perfect way, we would love to have you there and would be very grateful for your support. If you cannot be there, we would love it if you would send JoAnn love and light and see her perfectly guided to be wherever she needs to be. Thank you and may you be blessed.
Thursday, March 28, 2013
Muse for Life
Community Inspiration Center
205 Hilderbrand Drive
Sandy Springs, Ga. 30328