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Couples in Crisis – Colin Tipping – Anaheim, CA
April 2, 2016 @ 2:00 pm - April 3, 2016 @ 3:00 pm
Is It Make It Or Break-It? Our commitment is to assist you in making that decision. We will do this by, among other things, helping you assess your relationship as it once was, how it is now and what, if anything, is left on which to build a future. We will ask you to look at your expectations going into the relationship and the extent to which they have or have not been met. . . and whether they were realistic. We will ask, “Did you know what your boundaries were, and were they respected?”
Our job is to enable you to be clear about what you want and don’t want in a relationship, whether this is to be negotiated in your current relationship on in a future one. You will have a better understanding of your own and your partner’s sexual personality, and how this has been a factor in your relationship. You will also learn how to discuss the issues between you so you can each express your truth to your partner without it becoming an argument. This will be important to practice in the period between the first workshop and the follow-up.
By the end of the first workshop, you may well think you know which road is best and how best to navigate it. However, unless you are really firm on it at that point, we will ask you to defer your final decision until we meet for the second time one month later. It will give you a chance to think it over during those 30 days and begin making plans for the future, no matter which choice you make. These we shall discuss on that second meet-up as well.
Upon arrival at the meet-up, which for some may have to be online, we will expect you to have individually made and be ready to declare your decisions to each other and the group. You can expect to receive an incredible amount of loving support from everyone in the group and you will no doubt experience the joy of giving it to the other couples as well, knowing what they have been through.
Please be assured that it is of no consequence to us which way you decide. Our job is simply to help you get clarity and help move you through the process with an open heart. The only commitment we ask you to make is that, in response to our questioning, no matter how tough it might be, you agree to tell the truth and withhold nothing. The truth will set you both free.
Whether you decide to stay together and make it work, or bring it to a loving completion and move on, the aim is for you to complete the work with us feeling empowered, respected, loved and full of hope and optimism about the future,
The Power of the Group Experience
At first blush you would think the best way of doing couples work would be in private with just you, your partner and a therapist. That’s how it is usually done.
Our experience is quite the opposite. The work is much more powerful when done with other people who are in the same situation as you, working in small groups some of the time and at other times all together. A workshop of four couples is ideal, but even with two couples the advantage is more than doubled.
It is always easier to see yourself reflected in other people than to see yourself as you are. The same is true of couples. As each of the couples share their stories, you see your own story reflected. This may offer the opportunity to see it for the first time or to see it differently.
Empathy and understanding arises as a consequence and it becomes possible for everyone to soften their hearts, not only towards their partners but to themselves as well. Listening to the others gives you a completely different perspective on your own situation.
Forgiveness Heals – Reconciliation Appeals
In any relationship there are always things that need to be forgiven or accepted. They can be small things that are easily forgiven but the big things, like infidelity, physical abuse, excessive drinking, drug abuse, lying, pornography, etc., are not so easily dismissed through forgiveness, at least not as we normally conceive it. It’s much too hard.
Fortunately we have developed a form of forgiveness called Radical Forgiveness which enables us to forgive fairly easily, quite quickly and with a lot less pain and anguish. This method will be explored during the workshop. It will stand you in good stead either in re-booting your current relationship or as a way to clean out your emotional closet before you even begin thinking about creating a new one. (This is essential if you wish to avoid taking the energy of this one into the next.)
But let’s be clear. Forgiving someone or accepting them the way they are does not mean you have to put up with their behavior. It is up to you to decide whether you remove yourself from such a toxic environment or renegotiate a new way of being in the relationship. You do the forgiveness so you can feel free from blame, anger, sadness and guilt. You do it for you and you alone.
Reconciliation, on the other hand, requires the involvement of both parties. It is a process by which we appeal to each other to honor who we are, to respect what is important to us, to respect our boundaries and to compromise about those things where give and take is possible. It is a process of negotiation by equals.
In this workshop you will learn how to negotiate from a place of strength and certainty about what you want, what you will not put up with under any circumstance and what you are willing to bring to the table.
Your Investment in Your Happiness
$3,777 per couple.
(Individual Attendee Without Partner $2,700)
Where We Meet: The Anaheim Majestic Garden Hotel, 900 S Disneyland Dr, Anaheim, CA 92802, (714) 778-1700 (Formerly Sheraton.)
Time: 9:00 a.m.
An interview with Colin has to be scheduled so he may determine if this is the right workshop for you to attend, with or without your partner. Click here to complete the request to attend and we will be in touch to schedule a time.