Cancer and Forgiveness

We are more than just a body.  We have feelings so we are also emotional beings; we have a soul, so we are spiritual beings; and we have minds so we are mental beings.  The science of psychoneuroimmunology is now proving beyond any doubt whatsoever that mind, body, spirit and emotions constantly interact—and sickness in any one of those areas affects the other. 

This means that if we just focus only on the body, we leave untreated a whole range of causes that are not physical in origin.  In our work with cancer patients, I have seldom seen a case where there was not a very strong emotional and spiritual component implicated in the causation of their cancer.

If you ignore the emotional, spiritual and mental aspects of a disease like cancer you’re ignoring half of the problem—which also means you’re ignoring half of the solution.  When you are dealing with a life threatening illness, you can’t afford to do that.  

We are very familiar with the idea that environmental toxicity—such as pesticide residue, food additives, growth hormones, chemicals in the home and so on—affects our health.  However, we need also to consider mental and emotional toxicity.

Let’s look at toxic ideas and beliefs first.  These are often formed early in life but remain operative in our life all the time just under the surface—subconsciously.  These are beliefs like, “I will never be enough.”  “I am worthless.”  “No matter what I do, I will never be loved.”  “I must be perfect if I am to be loved.”  “Everybody else is more important than me—I don’t matter.”  “I must take care of other people’s feelings.” 

Ideas like this are toxic because they eat away at the very essence of who we are—they eat away at our soul.  Lawrence LeShan, author of Cancer as a Turning Point, and a psychotherapist who specialized in working with cancer patients, found that almost all cancer patients had the same underlying belief. “If I show up as who I am, no one will love me.  Therefore, in order to be loved, I have to be someone else.”  This is why I think cancer is often a sickness of the soul: a negation of who we are, bordering on self-hatred.

We also have a lot of mental toxicity in the form of old stories—stories about how we have been hurt, abused, damaged or victimized in some other way, that we can’t let go of and just keep recycling.  This lack of forgiveness causes us to have resentment and other ongoing toxic emotions.

Emotional toxicity is probably even more dangerous to our health than mental toxicity, though of course the two are linked.  Our victim stories and associated beliefs create toxic emotions like resentment, shame, guilt, sadness, and depression.  One of the things that is well-known about cancer is that it is nearly always preceded by long periods of depression. 

However, it is important to stress here is that emotions are NEVER toxic if they are owned, felt and expressed—even emotions like anger.  They only become toxic or negative when they are suppressed or repressed—in other words stuffed or denied.  A landmark study in England by a researcher called Stephen Greer has shown very conclusively that stuffing emotions is actually a predictor of cancer.  In other words, people who stuff their emotions are more likely to get cancer than those who don’t. Unfortunately our society teaches us to stuff our emotions. We are told not to cry when we are young, especially boys.  But crying is good.  No one has ever died through crying as far as I know.

You don’t have to look far to find emotional toxicity.  It’s never very far beneath the surface.  Almost invariably I find that five to seven years prior to the onset of the cancer, the patient suffered a severe loss or a trauma that was never property grieved—or an event that was not forgiven— leaving the patient still holding onto anger and resentment.

As spiritual beings, we can also suffer from soul sickness and I find this is also common in cancer patients.  It is caused by such things as perfectionism, co-dependence, depression, apathy, being unfulfilled in their work, disconnected from their purpose in life, finding little meaning in life and being cynical.

Hopefully, those who have cancer, or have had it and don’t want a recurrence, will see the need to drastically reduce this mental, emotional and spiritual toxicity by doing the Radical Forgiveness and Radical Self-Forgiveness work on themselves, either by using the tools or hiring an RF Coach.  But, bearing in mind that one in five people get cancer in their lifetime, is it not prudent for us all to do the work as a way to prevent cancer?

As I have said before, I came up with The Tipping Method, which now covers a whole range of worksheets, because in the early 90s, I needed a way to help cancer patients. If you have, or have had, cancer, you might want to click here to read an article about some of the successes: Radical Forgiveness—A Complementary Treatment for Cancer

Science has proven that mind, body, spirit and emotions interact in a way that means sickness in any one of those areas pulls down the others. I’ve seen plenty of evidence that building your mental, emotional and spiritual strength will strengthen your body and maybe even cure cancer as well. If you or someone you love is facing cancer, I hope you too will soon see this healing power in action.


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